How to Argue With a Man

How to Argue With a Man

How to Argue With a Man
By Peter Harris

If you are a woman and want to learn how to argue with a man then here is a list of the top eight ways you can argue with a man to improve your chances of resolving the argument productively.

1. Stay logical. Men typically think logically. They argue logically as well. They won't often interject their feelings into a discussion and when a woman does this it throws a wrench into his thought process. Fight logic with logic.

2. Stick to the facts. This goes along with staying logical when the discussion started out with logic and facts. Resist the temptation to stray from the facts of the matter at hand. Don't bombard the discussion with facts of past events; stay current and on target. The stronger your focus the less chance that either of you will lose your tempers or let your feelings take over.

3. Don't make it personal. It is not uncommon that when arguing someone will have their feeling's hurt. Unless you were blatantly insulted don't read between the lines or take his arguments personally. When the argument becomes personal it becomes more difficult to stay focused. Your goal is to reach a resolution, not to "win" the argument.

4. Be prepared to "prove" your argument. Men look for proof when arguing about something. You may just want to be heard and given the opportunity to express yourself. The guy may not think like that. He's waiting for solid proof to back up what you are saying. Stick to proving your point. You will gain much more ground.

5. Keep your feelings and emotions in check. Keep your emotions out of it when possible. When a woman interjects her feelings into an argument a man will interpret this as he is wrong for being logical. That is why it is best to keep your feelings out of a logical discussion.

6. Don't blame a guy for being logical. Never verbally attack a guy for using logical thinking. This is what we do. If you tell us to stop being logical it only makes us angry and defensive.

7. Don't shift gears mid-argument. If you want to debate, then debate. If you want a more nurtured discussion then start the discussion with how you feel. If you are engaged in a logical, factual discussion with a man then keep it that way. The argument will maintain its momentum and run its course. If you try and switch gears and throw emotions into it then the dynamic of the argument changes. It's best to stay with one or the other.

8. Hold your ground. Don't give in to a man "just because." Don't continue arguing "just because" either. Remember your goal is to communicate and reach a resolution to the problems at hand. It's not about who has the last word or who "wins" the argument. Arguments between men and women are inevitable. If the goal of arguing is to effectively communicate a problem or how you feel about something and ultimately resolving that issue then knowing the best way to argue can only enhance the chances of achieving your goals.

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Peter Harris is a health care professional and author and writes frequently about relationships.

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